International Widows’ Day Celebrations of 2012 in Nedunkerny

A group of war widows in the Nedunkerny region of the Wanni District celebrated the International Widows’ Day on 22nd  June, 2012 at the  conference hall of the Nedunkerny Pradesa Sabai.  This meeting was organized by an NGO in collaboration with the relevant officers of the Divisional Secretary of Nedunkerny who  had arranged for the distribution  some material for income generation activities provided by NGOs. The funds for this meeting was provided by an UK based charity organization working  for  war affected children and widows. This meeting was attended by representatives of these organizations and  more than a hundred war widows  who had been invited  to commemorate  this day and listen to motivating speeches by experienced persons to give hope for these widows who had been rendered destitute by the recently concluded war.  Some of these widows made use of this opportunity to cry out the problems they are facing consequent to their re-settlement in this region.

Nedunkerny is situated midway on the road  from Vavuniya to Mullaitivu  and has suffered devastating consequences during the war.  Agriculture has been the prime occupation of the people who resided there prior to the escalation of the war.  Most of the residents of Nedunkerny had fled to other parts of the region when the fighting became intense.  According to the figures available at the Divisional Secretary’s Office, with the conclusion of the war 4000 families have returned to the region, many of whom had been re-settled.  A majority of them are women  who had lost their husbands and some of their children. Some of them have lost one or more of their limbs.   Most of them have even lost some of their family members.  There are 587 war widows among them, living within the 20 Grama Niladharis Divisions in the area. During the interaction by the relevant officials with these widows,  collaborative evidence was found on  a number of problems these widows are encountering since they returned to Nedunkerny.

Some of these problems are set out below:

  • Most of these widow are living in improvised houses which do not provide adequate security for the inmates.
  • Many  of these widows are vulnerable for sexual abuse by undesirable persons in the region.
  • A large number of children of school going age, do not attend school. Some of them  are  often sexually abused .
  • Poverty has driven some women in this area to earn a living by indulging in prostitution.
  • Brewing illicit liquor has become a cottage industry in some parts of Nedunkerny.
  • Most of the young men and women in this division do not have any avenues for  employment or even though some have received  vocational training.
  • Traditionally they had been marketing their produce in Vavuniya and Mullaitivu. They have no easy access to these markets now.
  • Many people do not have any legal documents, either to prove who they are, when they were born, to whom they are married  or which lands belong to them.
  • Their inability to meet as a group to discuss their problems has inhibited the germination of leaders from among them.
  • Some of the widows being disabled and many of them living far away from each other’s residence, has made it difficult for effective communication among the widows who do not have convenient means of travel within the villages.

The widows of Nedunkerny are only a sample of the  89,000 war widows  spread out in the North and the East of the country.  The problems identified could be more or less the same in most of the regions  in these provinces.

It was pointed out  in my  message read out at  this meeting  that according to a survey there are 245 million widows worldwide  of whom 100 million are in dire circumstances.  The UN Declaration of International Widows’ Day was the result of an initiative   taken at the UN General Assembly  in 2010  by the Loomba Foundation based in U.K.  It  is a recognized  international organization  caring for widows around the world.  I believe the Widows’ Day Celebrations in Nedunkerny  on 22nd June  is the first occasion that such a day was  celebrated in Sri Lanka.

The audience was reminded that this meeting should not be confined to just making speeches and going back to their usual lives thereafter, but should signal the beginning of a process that would eventually lead to making all the widows get over their dire circumstances and transform themselves  into women who could  meet  their own  needs from their own incomes.  Those who receive assistance for  income generation activities today should make every effort to get the maximum benefit out of their activities.  The widows have to remember that they are not a forgotten lot.  There are many who are very much concerned of  their well being.   What they should do to make their voice heard and  get recognition of their problems  is to form themselves into small groups or join the organizations that are working for them. They need to realize that if they raise their voice on their grievances jointly they would be heard by those at a greater  distance than by single voices crying out in the wilderness.  When their voice is loud enough even the State  will find it difficult to  ignore them.

Almost all widows are persons with some skill or the other.  They possess hidden and  untapped abilities. It should be the work of social service organizations and the State to  identify their abilities, provide the basic amenities and avenues  needed   to enable these widows to make use of their abilities  to alleviate their lives.  They need to be transformed from the category of persons who are  always waiting for someone to provide their needs,  to persons who can provide for themselves and for their  communities  using  their  own skills.

Let us hope  when the International Widows’ Day  celebrations are  held next year, there will be fewer widows at least in Nedunkerny,  who  would need assistance from the State or from other  organizations  and they would come forward to commemorate this occasion with  their own resources on their own volition.

  • http://---- A Concerned Citizen

    It is good to see some of the war widows in Sri Lanka meeting in Nedunkerny to commemorate the International Widows’ Day. There must be a considerable number in the South too, meaning the wives of the Sri Lankan security forces who are missing in action during the war. Perhaps the wives of the security forces personnel killed during the conflict must be receiving a pension from the State, but presumably the plight of the wives of those missing-in-action and those who had disappeared before and after the conflict may be living under dire circumstances. The plight of these widows and their children do not receive much publicity in the media. If one adds figures of the 89,000 war widows in the North and the East the total number could be nearly 200,000. I am sure the Census Department must be having these statistics. Yet there is no declared policy or plan of action by any State institutions on providing meaningful relief or assistance to these widows, most of whom must be facing innumerable problems in the absence of the male member of their family.
    The Loomba Foundation which had been formed by concerned individuals is now an internationally recognized UN organization which is caring the millions of widows in India. Recently there was a report that the Loomba Foundation had organized the International Widows Day in a big way in London on 23rd June, 2012. Cherie Blair the President of the Loomba Foundation and 20 other ladies representing widows interest world over, are reported to have walked across the London Bridge on this day to draw attention to the need for help to widows. According to a report in their website the Loomba Foundation has also funded education of over 6500 children of poor widows to support 27000 family members in 29 states of India since 1999, and is providing education to another 3000 children of widows in distress this year (vide http://www.theloombafoundation.org/news/2012#05-10 )

    Isn’t it time that the plight of the widows in Sri Lanka brought into focus and more meaningful steps taken to alleviate their problems ? Unfortunately, we have many kinds of activists both in and outside Sri Lanka who rush to demonstrate and cry foul on matters they are think are more important to them politically or otherwise. But such persons appear to have very little concern for the widows in Sri Lanka.

    • rita

      Rajani

      Thank you for helping the widows in the North and letting us know what happens in the North.

      It was sad to note:
      Sri Lanka: Women’s Insecurity in the North and East, Asia Report No 217, 20 December 2011

      Dear Concerned citizen
      Thank you for raising pertinent questions.
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